Workplace Dilemmas & Debates

This or That Work Edition

Fast, polarizing-in-a-good-way team debates to thaw awkward silences and reveal how coworkers think.

work-styleThis or That · Standup Edition

Round 01 of 273

Facilitator tip

Count 3-2-1 and have everyone drop A or B in chat simultaneously. Press Space for next dilemma. Tapping “Live vote” gives you a link everyone votes from their phone.

Browse all 625 dilemmas

Get one of these in your channel every morning with the Meltylum bot (coming soon). Leave your email and you’ll get early access.

No spam. A single email when the Meltylum bot launches.

QUICK GUIDE

How to run it in standups

Share the round

Drop it in chat 5 minutes before the meeting or share your screen.

Vote together

Everyone picks A or B at the same time in chat. No herd mentality.

Discuss the split

Ask the outliers why. The real conversation starts here.

Full Archive

This or that questions for work

All 512 work-safe dilemmas are listed below.

This or That(273)

Work style
Instrumental music VS Absolute silence
Work style
Morning meetings VS Afternoon meetings
Food
Coffee VS Tea
Work style
Chat message VS Quick call
Remote life
Work from home VS Work from office
Preferences
Early bird VS Night owl
Work style
Plan first VS Prototype first
Work style
Laptop screen VS Dual monitors
Preferences
Beach VS Mountains
Food
Sweet snack VS Salty snack
Remote life
Camera on VS Camera optional
Work style
Tight deadline VS Flexible deadline

Show 261 more dilemmas

Work style
Written update VS Live stand-up
Preferences
Podcast VS Music
Preferences
City break VS Nature escape
Work style
Short meetings VS Long deep-dives
Work style
Big picture VS Details
Preferences
Walk and talk VS Sit and focus
Preferences
Sunrise VS Sunset
Preferences
Books VS Movies
Preferences
Hot weather VS Cold weather
Work style
New ideas VS Perfect execution
Fun
Pineapple on pizza VS Never pineapple on pizza
Work style
Business casual VS Fully casual
Work style
Notes by hand VS Notes on screen
Preferences
Give anonymously VS Give where it's seen
Preferences
Forgive quickly VS Talk it through first
Values & faith
Gratitude journal VS Morning prayer
Values & faith
Bible in a year VS Bible on audio
Work style
Ship first VS Polish first
Work style
Group chat VS Email thread
Work style
Docs before code VS Code before docs
Work style
Async update VS Live huddle
Work style
Weekly planning VS Daily planning
Work style
One project at a time VS Parallel projects
Work style
Standing desk VS Sitting desk
Work style
Quiet room VS Open floor plan
Work style
Checklists VS Freeform notes
Work style
Small batches VS Big releases
Work style
Cut scope VS Cut timeline
Work style
Pair on hard tasks VS Solo on hard tasks
Work style
Ship on Friday VS Ship on Monday
Work style
Estimate in days VS Estimate in points
Work style
Hand off to the next person VS Finish it myself
Work style
Voice note VS Written note
Preferences
Road trip VS Fly
Preferences
Morning workout VS Evening workout
Preferences
Cook at home VS Order in
Preferences
Cats VS Dogs
Preferences
Texting VS Calling
Preferences
Re-read a favorite VS Start something new
Preferences
Planned itinerary VS Wander freely
Preferences
Big city VS Small town
Preferences
Subtitles on VS Subtitles off
Preferences
Summer VS Winter
Preferences
Vinyl VS Streaming
Preferences
Museum VS Concert
Preferences
Early dinner VS Late dinner
Preferences
Save first VS Spend first
Remote life
Co-working space VS Kitchen table
Remote life
Home office VS Living room
Remote life
Long commute VS No commute
Remote life
Muted by default VS Always unmuted
Remote life
Desk job VS Couch job
Remote life
Shared calendar VS Own schedule
Remote life
Home with family VS Home alone
Remote life
Coffee shop hours VS Office hours
Remote life
Company retreat VS Local meetup
Remote life
Written chat VS Video chat
Remote life
Block focus time VS Keep the calendar open
Remote life
Swap time zones VS Keep your hours
Fun
Pizza party VS Taco night
Fun
Karaoke night VS Game night
Fun
Board games VS Video games
Fun
Beach day VS Pool day
Fun
Weekend sleeping in VS Weekend early start
Fun
Memes VS GIFs
Fun
Trivia night VS Movie night
Fun
Deep talk VS Light banter
Values & faith
Church small group VS Book club
Values & faith
Honest answer VS Comfortable answer
Values & faith
Keep a promise VS Keep a deadline
Values & faith
Speak up early VS Wait your turn
Values & faith
Ask for help VS Figure it out alone
Values & faith
Mentor someone VS Learn from someone
Values & faith
Apologize first VS Wait and explain
Food
Homemade VS Takeout
Food
Sweet breakfast VS Savory breakfast
Food
Big lunch VS Big dinner
Work style
Sync in person VS Sync on the doc
Work style
Big launch VS Quiet launch
Work style
Feedback loop VS Status update
Preferences
Slow morning VS Fast morning
Preferences
Batch errands VS Errand by errand
Preferences
Longer vacation VS Shorter vacations
Preferences
Handwritten list VS Digital list
Preferences
Pottery class VS Language class
Remote life
Second monitor VS Laptop only
Remote life
Noise-canceling VS Open air
Remote life
Dining table setup VS Dedicated room
Remote life
House slippers VS Real shoes
Remote life
Walk between tasks VS Stretch between tasks
Remote life
Shared workspace VS Private corner
Remote life
Neighbor chatter VS Total quiet
Remote life
Lunch break outside VS Lunch at the desk
Remote life
Standing break VS Screen break
Remote life
Kitchen table office VS Garage office
Fun
Board game night VS Pub trivia
Fun
Escape room VS Scavenger hunt
Fun
Costume party VS Pajama party
Fun
Bonfire VS Backyard barbecue
Fun
Comedy night VS Open mic night
Fun
Homemade gifts VS Bought gifts
Fun
Weekday holiday VS Long weekend
Fun
Theme night VS Free-for-all
Fun
Water fight VS Snow day
Fun
Photo bomber VS Photo taker
Fun
Dance-off VS Sing-off
Fun
Puzzle night VS Movie marathon
Values & faith
Sprint to the finish VS Steady pace
Values & faith
Direct feedback VS Gentle feedback
Values & faith
Public commitment VS Private goal
Values & faith
Time given VS Money given
Values & faith
Admit the mistake VS Cover the mistake
Values & faith
Follow the process VS Bend the process
Values & faith
Weekend recharge VS Weekend errands
Values & faith
Call it a day early VS Push one more hour
Values & faith
One big ask VS Many small asks
Values & faith
Keep the routine VS Break the routine
Values & faith
Share the credit VS Own the outcome
Values & faith
Ask the naive question VS Stay quiet
Values & faith
Deep relationship VS Broad network
Food
Spicy VS Mild
Food
Extra cheese VS No cheese
Food
Food truck VS Sit-down place
Food
Home-baked VS Store-bought
Food
Soup weather VS Salad weather
Food
Meal prep in batches VS Cook on the spot
Food
Fruit bowl VS Chocolate bar
Food
Family recipe VS New recipe
Food
Diner VS Bakery
Food
Iced latte VS Hot cocoa
Food
Picnic VS Restaurant
Food
Farmers market VS Supermarket
Food
Snack drawer VS Snack run
Work style
Team ritual VS Personal ritual
Work style
Calendar block VS Open time
Work style
Decide by committee VS Decide alone
Preferences
Same seat every time VS Rotate seats
Preferences
Gift a book VS Gift a plant
Preferences
Hot shower VS Cold plunge
Preferences
Wander the aisles VS Shop with a list
Preferences
Plants at home VS Art at home
Remote life
Standing mat VS No mat
Remote life
Morning sunlight VS Night lamp
Remote life
Door closed VS Door open
Remote life
Blur background VS Real background
Remote life
One monitor VS Three monitors
Remote life
Hallway desk VS Corner desk
Remote life
Roommate rhythm VS Solo rhythm
Remote life
Tidy cables VS Visible cables
Remote life
Window open VS Window closed
Remote life
Tea break VS Stretch break
Fun
Team jersey day VS Fancy dress day
Fun
Group bake-off VS Group cook-off
Fun
Popcorn bucket VS Nacho plate
Fun
Dare round VS Question round
Fun
Karaoke marathon VS DJ night
Fun
Meme review VS Photo review
Fun
Board game rematch VS New game
Fun
Playlist battle VS Shared playlist
Fun
Scavenger list VS Bingo card
Fun
Outdoor games VS Indoor games
Fun
Cheer squad VS Quiet support
Fun
Prize for everyone VS Prize for winners
Fun
Story chain VS Story swap
Values & faith
Quiet generosity VS Loud generosity
Values & faith
Keep the standard VS Lower the standard
Values & faith
Team first VS Me first
Values & faith
Long game VS Quick win
Values & faith
Share the load VS Carry the load
Values & faith
Hard boundary VS Soft boundary
Values & faith
Consistent every week VS Great once a month
Values & faith
Invite the new person VS Wait to be invited
Values & faith
Hand it off VS See it through
Values & faith
Same energy every day VS Big energy sometimes
Values & faith
Notice the small win VS Chase the big win
Values & faith
Ask before advising VS Advise before asking
Food
Ramen VS Tacos
Food
Crispy VS Soft
Food
Buffet VS Plated
Food
Leftovers today VS Leftovers tomorrow
Food
Honey VS Cinnamon
Food
Grill VS Stovetop
Food
Farm fresh VS Frozen aisle
Food
Cold brew VS Chai
Food
Surprise menu VS Same menu
Food
Pack a lunch VS Buy lunch
Food
Fresh fruit VS Dried fruit
Food
Table service VS Counter service
Food
Eggs over easy VS Eggs scrambled
Food
Ranch VS Ketchup
Food
Sourdough VS Soft roll
Food
Dessert first VS Save it for last
Work style
Standup in the morning VS Standup at noon
Work style
Start the week with goals VS Start with wins
Work style
First task: inbox VS First task: build
Work style
One priority today VS Five small tasks
Work style
Share the blocker early VS Handle it solo
Work style
Plan Monday morning VS Plan on Friday
Work style
Write it down VS Keep it in your head
Work style
Check the metrics first thing VS Check them at five
Work style
Delegate the busywork VS Keep it yourself
Work style
Fix it today VS Fix it this week
Preferences
Inbox at 9 VS Inbox at 5
Preferences
Music while working VS Silence while working
Preferences
Sit for lunch VS Walk for lunch
Preferences
Same breakfast every day VS Mix it up
Preferences
Voice message VS Typed message
Preferences
Bright screen VS Dim screen
Preferences
Read the agenda VS Skip to decisions
Preferences
Snack at the desk VS Snack in the kitchen
Remote life
Always-on video VS Audio only
Remote life
Kitchen table VS Spare room
Remote life
Camera on for big meetings VS Camera off
Remote life
Morning walk before work VS Walk after work
Remote life
Do not disturb always VS Always reachable
Remote life
Company offsite quarterly VS Company offsite yearly
Remote life
Own your calendar VS Share your calendar
Fun
Office DJ VS Office comedian
Fun
Lucky in raffles VS Lucky in quizzes
Fun
Tell the pun VS Take the dare
Fun
Dance-off winner VS Joke winner
Fun
Office playlist curator VS Snack curator
Fun
Drop the perfect GIF VS Nail the one-liner
Fun
Cheer loudest VS Laugh hardest
Values & faith
Share credit with the team VS Keep it
Values & faith
Thank someone publicly VS Thank them privately
Values & faith
Ask for the hard feedback VS Wait for it
Values & faith
Make space for the quiet person VS Take the space
Values & faith
Do the right thing unseen VS Only when it counts
Hypothetical
Never wait for a reply VS Never miss a deadline
Hypothetical
One free hour daily VS One free day monthly
Hypothetical
Superpower: speed VS Superpower: precision
Values & faith
Forgive fast VS Get an apology first
Values & faith
Do unto others VS Do unto the difficult coworker
Values & faith
Read the Gospels daily VS Read them rarely but slowly
Values & faith
Give the credit away VS Take it
Values & faith
Keep the rule VS Break it for mercy
Values & faith
Win the argument VS Keep the person
Values & faith
Plan for the many VS Plan for the one struggling
Values & faith
Protect your calendar VS Give that hour away
Values & faith
Be right VS Be kind
Values & faith
Keep score VS Forget the debt
Values & faith
Coach the new person VS Fast-track the star
Values & faith
Reply now VS Reply tomorrow
Values & faith
Broadcast the win VS Tell one person quietly
Values & faith
Ask what's fair VS Ask what's merciful
Values & faith
Serve from the back VS Lead from the front
Values & faith
Follow the policy VS Follow the person through
Values & faith
Reward the loudest VS Reward the quiet one
Values & faith
Welcome the outsider VS Protect the insiders
Values & faith
Say it directly VS Say it gently
Values & faith
Ship it perfect VS Ship it and learn
Values & faith
Hold the standard VS Hold the person
Values & faith
The Good Samaritan route VS The efficient route
Values & faith
The Prodigal welcome back VS The second interview
Values & faith
The mustard seed plan VS The five-year plan
Values & faith
The towel and basin VS The calendar invite
Values & faith
Ask what Jesus would do VS Ask what the data says
Values & faith
The Beatitudes charter VS The values slide
Values & faith
Pray about it VS Sleep on it
Values & faith
Love the difficult teammate VS Limit them to email

Would You Rather(239)

Work style
Start work very early VS Finish work very late
Work style
Have no meetings VS Have no email
Work style
Lead a project VS Support a project
Preferences
One long break VS Several short breaks
Remote life
Work from home forever VS Work from an office forever
Preferences
Always be five minutes early VS Never have to rush
Work style
Master one tool completely VS Know a little about many tools
Work style
Have a faster computer VS Have a bigger screen
Food
Unlimited coffee VS Unlimited snacks
Work style
Get public praise VS Get a quiet thank-you
Work style
Plan the whole week VS Take it one day at a time
Work style
Deep-focus mornings VS Meeting-free afternoons

Show 227 more dilemmas

Hypothetical
Have a four-day week VS Finish early every day
Remote life
Travel for work sometimes VS Work fully remote always
Hypothetical
Automate the boring tasks VS Do them yourself and switch off
Preferences
Take one day fully off VS Leave the phone behind all Sunday
Hypothetical
Instant travel anywhere VS Instant knowledge of anything
Hypothetical
Super memory VS Perfect focus
Hypothetical
Lead the meeting VS Present the demo
Hypothetical
Never wait in line VS Never wait for a reply
Hypothetical
Two extra hours a day VS Two extra days a week
Hypothetical
Always know what to say VS Always know when to stay quiet
Hypothetical
Ship a product people love VS Build a product that lasts
Hypothetical
Infinite budget VS Infinite time
Hypothetical
A quiet office VS A brilliant team
Hypothetical
Know the answer VS Know the right question
Work style
One perfect hour of focus VS Eight scattered hours
Work style
A mentor who challenges you VS A manager who protects you
Work style
Always have context VS Always have time
Work style
Work alone on the hard part VS Review it as a team
Work style
Same deadline, smaller scope VS Same scope, later deadline
Work style
Write the doc VS Present the doc
Work style
Jump on a call VS Answer in writing
Work style
Own one metric VS Own the whole feature
Work style
Think out loud VS Think on paper
Remote life
Same time zone forever VS Live anywhere
Remote life
Work from the couch VS Work from a real desk
Remote life
Daily video check-in VS Weekly video check-in
Remote life
Company stipend VS Company gear
Remote life
No meeting Fridays VS No meeting Mondays
Remote life
Coworking membership VS Gym membership
Remote life
Meet the team yearly VS Meet the team monthly
Remote life
Answer within the hour VS Answer within the day
Preferences
Late night out VS Early morning start
Preferences
One month off VS Longer weekends
Preferences
Read the sequel first VS Read the original first
Preferences
Cook a new recipe every week VS Master five recipes
Preferences
Spend on experiences VS Spend on things
Preferences
Weekend marathon VS Weekly episode
Preferences
Window seat VS Aisle seat
Fun
Live inside a musical VS Live inside a sitcom
Fun
Only puns VS Only one-liners
Fun
Win every trivia night VS Win every raffle
Fun
Prank your teammate VS Be the one pranked
Values & faith
Keep your word VS Keep your options open
Values & faith
Tell the hard truth VS Protect their feelings
Hypothetical
A two-day weekend forever VS A three-day weekend forever
Hypothetical
Always predict delays VS Never be surprised
Hypothetical
Choose your hours VS Choose your city
Hypothetical
Unlimited prototypes VS Unlimited user interviews
Hypothetical
Publish every day VS Publish when ready
Hypothetical
Work with your hero VS Work with your best friend
Hypothetical
One deep skill VS Ten useful skills
Hypothetical
Skip one meeting a week VS Skip one email a day
Work style
Small team, big scope VS Big team, tight scope
Work style
Fix it now VS Fix it in the backlog
Work style
Own the roadmap VS Own the design
Remote life
Bright room VS Dim room
Remote life
Plants on camera VS Clean backdrop
Remote life
Work early with the team VS Work late alone
Remote life
Quiet apartment VS Busy household
Remote life
Backup internet VS Backup power
Remote life
Company laptop VS Own machine
Remote life
Monthly coworking VS Monthly retreat
Preferences
Weekend project VS Weekend off
Preferences
Gift experience VS Gift object
Preferences
Same restaurant every time VS Always try a new one
Preferences
Early flight VS Late flight
Preferences
Window down VS Music up
Preferences
Pack light VS Pack everything
Fun
Sing backup VS Sing lead
Fun
Halloween costume VS Holiday sweater
Fun
Host the party VS Enjoy the party
Fun
Improv scene VS Scripted scene
Fun
Puzzle hunt VS Story game
Fun
Silent disco VS Loud dance floor
Fun
Backyard campout VS Living room campout
Fun
Dance battle VS Lip-sync battle
Fun
Costume contest VS Talent contest
Values & faith
Admit you were wrong VS Prove you were right
Values & faith
Protect the team VS Protect the deadline
Values & faith
Choose honesty VS Choose kindness
Values & faith
Do the unglamorous work VS Do the visible work
Values & faith
Stay humble VS Stay confident
Values & faith
Slow, careful growth VS Fast, messy growth
Values & faith
Mentor one person deeply VS Train the whole team
Values & faith
Keep the original plan VS Adapt to new facts
Values & faith
Pray before the hard conversation VS Plan the hard conversation
Values & faith
Live below your means VS Live in the moment
Values & faith
Help without being asked VS Wait until asked
Hypothetical
Unlimited vacation days VS Unlimited remote days
Hypothetical
Perfect coffee machine VS Perfect quiet room
Hypothetical
Know every metric VS Know every customer
Hypothetical
Automate every report VS Automate every handoff
Hypothetical
Start from zero VS Inherit a finished project
Hypothetical
Have a clone for meetings VS Have a clone for deep work
Hypothetical
Never write a status update VS Never attend a status update
Hypothetical
Pick your teammate VS Pick your project
Hypothetical
One extra pair of hands VS One extra screen
Hypothetical
Solve a hard bug VS Ship a new feature
Hypothetical
Join at the start VS Join at the finish
Hypothetical
Perfect pitch VS Zero surprises
Hypothetical
Infinite patience VS Infinite energy
Hypothetical
One killer demo VS Ten small wins
Hypothetical
Try it first VS Wait for version two
Work style
Weekly demo VS Monthly demo
Work style
Async retro VS Live retro
Work style
Own the bug VS Own the feature
Work style
Deep work block VS Open office hours
Work style
Short doc, fast read VS Long doc, full context
Work style
Plan in quarters VS Plan in sprints
Work style
One clear owner VS Shared ownership
Work style
Ask before you build VS Build before you ask
Work style
Public goals VS Quiet goals
Work style
Protect the focus time VS Protect the response time
Work style
Estimate honestly VS Commit optimistically
Work style
Launch rough VS Launch polished
Work style
Fix the root cause VS Patch the symptom
Work style
Pair on the tricky part VS Solo with a rubber duck
Work style
Commit to less VS Stretch to more
Remote life
Same desk every day VS Rotate spots
Remote life
Video for standups VS Voice only for standups
Remote life
Home office allowance VS Co-working allowance
Remote life
Work from abroad VS Stay in your timezone
Remote life
Shared channel VS Shared doc
Remote life
Mute notifications VS Check on a schedule
Remote life
Morning overlap with the team VS Evening quiet hours
Remote life
Two monitors at home VS One on the road
Remote life
Coworker drops by VS Total silence
Remote life
Fixed core hours VS Flexible core hours
Remote life
Headphones on VS Headphones off
Remote life
Quiet house VS Busy cafe
Remote life
Daily standup VS Written check-in
Remote life
Home with pets VS Home with roommates
Remote life
Late lunch break VS Early lunch break
Remote life
Team retreat twice a year VS Budget to visit once
Remote life
End-of-day wrap-up VS Start-of-day plan
Remote life
Focus block in the morning VS Focus block at night
Preferences
Carry a notebook VS Keep notes in your phone
Preferences
Plan every hour VS Improvise the day
Preferences
Same lunch spot VS Rotate lunch spots
Preferences
Reply instantly VS Batch replies
Preferences
Wake before dawn VS Work past midnight
Preferences
Travel carry-on only VS Check a big bag
Preferences
Watch the game live VS Read the highlights
Preferences
Coffee before talk VS Talk before coffee
Preferences
Sort by price VS Sort by rating
Preferences
Long book, deep dive VS Short book, quick win
Preferences
One big trip VS Several small trips
Preferences
Wake up to an alarm VS Wake up naturally
Preferences
Take the stairs VS Wait for the elevator
Preferences
Playlist first VS Podcast first
Preferences
Airplane mode at night VS Notifications all night
Values & faith
Say the hard thing now VS Say it gently later
Values & faith
Credit the team VS Take the credit
Values & faith
Help the new hire quietly VS Help them publicly
Values & faith
Protect the quiet work VS Chase the visible work
Values & faith
Ask the awkward question VS Let it slide
Values & faith
Make it right VS Move on quietly
Values & faith
Answer the question fully VS Answer it fast
Values & faith
Keep the promise VS Reset expectations
Values & faith
Mentor in public VS Mentor behind the scenes
Values & faith
Do it again tomorrow VS Do it once perfectly
Values & faith
Listen first in a conflict VS Speak first in a conflict
Values & faith
Tell the truth kindly VS Tell it straight
Fun
Binge the whole season VS Savor the finale
Fun
Karaoke duet VS Karaoke solo
Fun
Board game night VS Video game night
Fun
Escape room VS Haunted house
Fun
Stand-up open mic VS Poetry slam
Fun
Be the DJ VS Take requests
Fun
Host game night VS Join game night
Fun
Magic show VS Comedy show
Fun
Summer festival VS Winter market
Fun
Puzzle book VS Sketchbook
Fun
Laugh at the dad joke VS Groan at the dad joke
Fun
Night in with takeout VS Night out dancing
Fun
Cook-off challenge VS Taste test challenge
Fun
Save every ticket stub VS Keep a photo album
Fun
Guess the song VS Name that tune
Fun
Weekend road trip VS Weekend staycation
Fun
Deck the halls VS Skip the tinsel
Fun
Play the villain VS Play the hero
Fun
Host the potluck VS Bring one dish
Fun
Watch parties VS Watch alone
Fun
Deal the cards VS Roll the dice
Fun
Meme reply VS Voice note reply
Values & faith
Give the clear answer VS Give a partial answer
Values & faith
Amplify the quiet voice VS Take the floor
Values & faith
Choose the harder right VS Choose the easier wrong
Values & faith
Raise the bar VS Move the bar
Values & faith
Do the invisible task VS Skip it
Values & faith
Tell them the bad news yourself VS Let the email do it
Values & faith
Praise in public VS Correct in private
Values & faith
Own the mistake openly VS Bury it quietly
Values & faith
Spend the extra hour on others VS Keep it for yourself
Values & faith
Apologize even when it is small VS Wait for the big one
Preferences
Sunday reset VS Friday reset
Preferences
Weekday dinner out VS Weekend dinner in
Preferences
Deep clean on Saturday VS Tidy a little daily
Preferences
Second coffee after lunch VS Nap instead
Values & faith
Rather be forgiven fast VS Never need forgiving
Values & faith
Rather finish last and finish it VS Finish first and leave gaps
Values & faith
Rather work for a boss who forgives mistakes VS One who never makes them
Values & faith
Rather be the one who asks for help VS The one everyone asks
Values & faith
Rather be trusted with little VS Trusted with a lot
Values & faith
Rather say no kindly VS Say yes badly
Values & faith
Rather be underestimated VS Be overexposed
Values & faith
Rather give anonymously VS Give and be thanked
Values & faith
Rather lose the deal VS Lose the teammate
Values & faith
Rather be the last to speak VS The first to volunteer
Values & faith
Rather work quietly and be missed VS Work loudly and be noticed
Values & faith
Rather have a hard truth VS A comfortable version of it
Values & faith
Rather be the person who apologizes first VS The one who waits
Values & faith
Rather have one deeply loyal teammate VS Ten impressed ones
Values & faith
Rather be corrected in private VS Praised in public
Values & faith
Rather carry the load alone VS Ask the team to carry it
Values & faith
Rather give the last slice away VS Keep it
Values & faith
Rather wait for the quiet person VS Move with the fastest
Values & faith
Rather be known for mercy VS Known for being right
Values & faith
Rather start with nothing and build it VS Start with everything and lose it
Values & faith
Rather sit with the new person VS Sit with your friends
Values & faith
Rather be the servant VS Be the boss
Values & faith
Rather lose an hour helping VS Keep the hour
Values & faith
Rather hear the hard feedback VS Hear nothing at all
Values & faith
Rather forgive out loud VS Forgive privately
Values & faith
Rather lead like a shepherd VS Lead like a scoreboard
Values & faith
Rather follow the crowd VS Follow the one nobody follows
Values & faith
Rather build a cathedral VS Build a stable

Jump to the FAQ

Everything You Need to Know

Frequently asked questions

What are This or That questions for work?

They are one-word binary choices (like “deep work with music or absolute silence”) that anyone can answer in seconds. They spark conversation in standups, retros and team meetings without putting anyone on the spot.

How do you play This or That in a team meeting?

Show a round, let everyone pick a side (in chat, on camera or out loud), then click Next. A whole round takes under two minutes, and Copy as text lets you paste any round straight into Slack or Teams. If your group prefers phones, tap Live vote to get a link everyone votes from in real time - no signup required.

What is the difference between This or That and Would You Rather?

This or That uses short one-word options for fast answers. Would You Rather presents two scenarios with a real trade-off, which makes for longer discussion. Both games are work-safe and built for teams.

Is the This or That team game free?

Yes. Free forever, no signup and no account. The full question bank is visible on this page and every round works offline in your browser.

Browse all dilemmas

More free tools

Icebreaker Question Generator Random, work-safe questions for standups, retros and remote calls.Would You Rather for Work Real trade-offs that get quiet teams debating how work should run.Most Likely To for Work One statement, one name in chat - the kindest team icebreaker.Question of the Day for Work One work-safe prompt a day - post it before standup.Kudos Generator The right words for shoutouts, wins and work anniversaries.